Thursday, May 27, 2010

Hurt Feelings

Maddie and Samantha apparently have a true sibling type relationship...even though they aren't related. They love each other one second and push each other's buttons the next.

Normally, Samantha tends to be the one in a bad mood in the morning. Particularly when I have to wake her up because she didn't wake up on her own. The other morning Maddie was the one in a bad mood.

While I was in the entry with Nancy, Samantha came running out, crying. I asked what was wrong and she told me that Maddie pushed her. I asked if she was hurt and she said no. So I started working with her on expressing her feelings with words rather than crying. I told her that rather than coming crying to me, she should ask Maddie to stop please because she doesn't want to be pushed. She said OK still with a little cry in her voice.

A few minutes later, Maddie came across the room from where she was rocking, pushed Samantha and then walked back to the rocking chair. All for no reason that I could discern.

Of course, Samantha started crying. She wasn't hurt. She just didn't want to be pushed. After crawling into my lap for some hugs and a reminder from me, she actually did do a good job of telling Maddie "You hurt mine feelings. Stop please." without too much whine in her voice.

Then a few seconds later while Maddie was sitting in time out, Samantha wanted to play with her...go figure. I am glad, though, that she forgives quickly.

And I hope that she is learning that it isn't fun when your friends are mean to you, so that perhaps she herself will be nicer to her friends all the time.